Relationship researcher John Gottman found that contempt is a key indicator a relationship will have problems and eventually fail. In fact, his research has found it to be the number one predictor of divorce. What is contempt? Gestures such as eye-rolling or sneering when you are talking, or sharing things in a negative or sarcastic tone can be signs. Mocking your partner, name-calling, and displays of disrespect fall into this category as well.
Contempt makes it really difficult for couples to have disagreements in a constructive way. Every couple will disagree at times, but you can disagree without fighting. In fact, disagreeing can be constructive if you work together. Here are some tips for disagreeing without fighting:
Want more resources? Consider attending a Married and Loving It class or other event to help strengthen your relationship. For more information, contact your local installation’s Family Advocacy Program.
Conflict is a normal and healthy part of every relationship. Well-managed conflict can promote growth, intimacy, and trust in a relationship. However, when left unresolved, conflicts and the factors that feed into it — poor communication and unhealthy interactions — can chip away at the foundation of a relationship and increase relationship dissatisfaction. Check out the guidelines below in order to manage conflict fairly in your relationships.
Navigating a relationship can be tough! When differences arise, don’t be afraid to talk about your concerns. Open communication is key to a healthy relationship.
For Domestic Violence Awareness Month ensure that you are keeping your relationship healthy and strong by living by your core values.